There will always be people who push your buttons. They can leave you fuming at the ears…but then you remember that you’re awake, and smacking the shit out of them is no longer a viable option.
Those annoying souls are there for your benefit, you know. An easy thing to forget when they push too far, through word or action.
I had a person in my life who was incapable of making a supportive statement. OK, let’s be honest: he’s a dick.
It doesn’t matter if what they say is true for you or not. Anything presented to you is from that person’s perspective, and reflects their view of the world. There will always be people to share their opinions with you, unless you decide to be that guy that meditates in a cave for the rest of your life.
So let’s do a little comparison between how you might react to someone pushing your buttons, back when you were asleep, and now that you’re awake.
I’ll share a recent public statement from my personal button-pusher:
A 52 year old woman can go off her meds and talk shit about unicorns and aliens without her friends and relatives catching her and locking her up until she starts taking her meds again. One day she will start to believe the things she says on You Tube and forget there is a difference between fantasy and reality and try to sell her concepts in the real world and then her friends and family will become the elusive unicorn and alien! Love always!
Seriously! Love always!?
That is the sign of a soul contract, right there. Or passive aggression. Probably both.
So how to react to a statement like that?
As an asleep human, I would go into defense mode.
I might refute in anger the untruths of the statement, or…even worse…retaliate with the most painful dagger to his insecurity that I could muster up in a millisecond.
When we’re asleep, we see each other as separate people, at odds with the world and everyone in it. We’ve forgotten that each person we interact with is merely a reflection of ourselves, presenting an opportunity to discover something about us.
Now let’s take a look at how awake people could handle the same situation:
An awake human would recognize the opportunity to respond to any statement, whether negative or positive, with kindness and compassion.
The awakened soul will aim to deliver a response that deflects any negativity, through the understanding of the source delivering it. Knowing that we are all one, looking at life through different eyes, we respond as if we are looking into a mirror. This maintains karmic balance and is self-love at its best.
Those button-pushers are giving you a gift, to practice your compassionate action. To put yourself in another’s shoes. To transmute from a reactive separate person, into a better you that understands the connection between all souls, no matter how separate they may feel.
So how did I respond? Well, I won’t claim to be Buddha. Initially, I devised many daggers to fling; but what good does it do other than create more karma for me to balance? So I said nothing until I felt that I could deliver a positive message, one that asserted my choice to detach from consistently negative people.
I’m sure another button-pusher is well on his way into my life, because that’s how we grow.
How blissful it would be if the awakening process were the simple flick of a switch…from Bitch to Buddha in the blink of an eye.
Don’t expect to be a saint; that’s not why you came to Earth at this time. In this divinely-orchestrated interactive game board, you get the chance to decide, at every moment, who you will be in any situation. You’ll have plenty of chances to better yourself, I promise!
And don’t forget that sometimes, the biggest button pusher is you, talking to yourself! All the more opportunity to send love in the wake of statements that lack it.
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